Here is an excerpt from the chapter, “The (f)Law of Attraction” in my soon-to-be-released book, The Three Strategies of the Unstoppable Woman. Let me know what you think!
When I watched the movie, The Secret, my fear of flying was renewed. Because, after all, as the Law of Attraction clearly states, what you think about is what you attract into your life.
Shortly after seeing this movie, and having been deeply impacted by it, I started becoming more and more aware of my thoughts. Awareness that you are even having thoughts is a good thing! The average person thinks at the “astonishing rate of up to 400 words per minute.” The more you are aware of the inane chatter in your head, the more you can distance yourself from it and realize that you are not your thoughts.
But the Law of Attraction has you thinking that you are your thoughts. So there I was, with a heightened awareness that I was my thoughts. My thoughts did not like it when my body flew in a plane. I had just come back from a personal vacation on a cruise ship, and the only way to return home as quickly as I wanted or needed was to fly.
On this particular day, I was flying home from San Diego to Victoria. The last section of the flight from Seattle to Victoria was particularly rough. The turbulence literally bounced us into the air a few times. “Empowered” with this new knowledge that I am my thoughts, and that all I have to do is to control my thoughts a little better, I found myself entering a panicked frenzy with the following train of thought:
If I think it, it will come to pass.
Crap. Was that turbulence? Uh oh. It’s not stopping. I think this plane will crash.
Damn! I can’t think that, cause then the plane will crash.
Stop thinking the plane will crash. Stop thinking the plane will crash. Stop thinking the plane will crash.
I can’t stop thinking that the plane will crash.
What if others are thinking that this plane will crash?
Oh my GOD, how many such thoughts are there on the flight today?
Surely this plane will crash. Why is that man praying? What does he know that I don’t? Does he have an inside scoop?
Damn! I can’t think that because then the plane will crash.
Stop thinking the plane will crash….
and on and on the insanity went.
By this time, I had broken into a damp cold sweat. My heart was pounding, and I felt like it would burst out of my mouth any minute now. And if I kept my mouth shut, it would pop out through my eyes. I had almost stopped breathing. I really felt like I was going to die. It was by far the worst panic attack I have ever experienced. And I don’t normally experience panic attacks.
Then, I had an epiphany.
“Wait a doggone minute here,” I scolded myself, “it matters not what I think, but what the G—D pilot thinks! I’m not in a position to bring this plane down. He is.”
And almost instantaneously, I calmed down. (And, no, the turbulence didn’t stop.)
I had this realization, then and there, that you needed to be in a position where you could actively impact the event in order for the event to be realized.
As The Serenity Prayer says:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change
courage to change the things I can
and wisdom to know the difference.
The first fatal flaw of the Law of Attraction (LOA) is that it is not a law.
 Robert Gerzon. Finding Serenity in the Age of Anxiety. New York: Bantam Books, 1998. p. 108.
 Most commonly attributed to the theologian Reinhold Niebuhr.