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For those of you who have been following this blog, you may recall financial stress.

My best-kept secret was that on April 19, 2011 I declared bankruptcy.

The direct cause-and-effect event that led me there was an “intentional wealth” course that I took back in 2007.  When all investments purchased through this group started to fail in 2009, I was told by the CFO to “keep the faith” and “stay positive” — because your mindset effects all things universal. Read the rest of this entry »

So if it turns out and I’m horribly wrong, and the Law of Attraction can be used to magically manifest things, perhaps we should turn our attention to the human race at large instead of the personal acquisition of so-called wealth.

Here’s my personal list of “fascinating” things gone horribly awry:

  • That we can keep on borrowing money from banks knowing that they are the biggest laundering scheme of all
  • That the health of the overall world economy depends on a lottery system called The Stock Exchange
  • That very few people realize that it’s not “things” that are taxed but the movement of money. Which is why “spending” our way out of recession is encouraged … to the benefit of government coffers (who give most of it back to banks).
  • That we keep on buying stuff made with child/slave labour in developing countries
  • That no one seems to give a shit about about carbon, which will be the ultimate death of humankind (US and esp Canada are the worst offenders, Canada having even signed on to Kyoto)
  • That men who are born of women, married to them, and father them, don’t seem horribly interested in stopping the machismo that leads to (and endorses) rape
  • That male-violence is considered a feminist issue (shouldn’t men be looking after male-violence, and women looking after women-violence?)
  • That most of the foods sold in grocery stores are processed (meat aside, the non-meat products are horribly horribly bad for you)
  • That feminists are considered anti-men
  • That corporations are dedicated to an increasing food consumption that humans are incapable of, which is why packaging gets smaller and food gets more addictive every year
  • That we have to pay MORE for chemical-free food
  • That world hunger is even an issue given the incredible surplus we have in the western world
  • That water is not considered a fundamental basic human right, but a bank-able a commodity
  • That the uprising in Bahrain was not supported world-wide
  • That we continually kill in the name of some pie-in-the-sky gods
  • That children are sold as sex commodities for the Western (dick) hunger for sex tourism
  • That the (respected) physical representation of women in media is so goddamn restrictive whereas the (respected) physical representation of men includes the mean, the fat and the ugly
  • That some people still think what others do in their bedrooms with consenting adults is any of their freakin business
  • That vibrators are still illegal in some states and guns are promoted
  • That some people think that end-of-life issues (eg euthanasia) must be dictated by some religious right
  • That women in Arabia still don’t have the right to vote
  • That date-rape drugs exist
  • That pot is illegal whereas cigarettes are legal
  • That there’s too much money in disease management, which truly prevents (by de-incentive-fying) the pharmaceuticals from find the cure
and the list goes on and on. Really, as a species, the human race is incredibly stupid. It’s rather surprising that we’ve lasted this long. Anything to add? Knock your socks off. And then think and think and think and think really freakin hard about it.

I challenge you to watch this award winning one-hour documentary, and then tell me that the Law of Attraction is not the absolute height of Western Arrogance.

Bahrain: Shouting in the dark – Programmes – Al Jazeera English.

Is your glass half full or half empty? If you have theprivilege of time and mental space to even contemplate this vacant question, you’re living in the lap of luxury.

How not to get lost in a sense of hopelessness here. A land is not its people but its owners, be it a king or a banker. The people may have moments, but as long as the money, power and mercenaries flock to the paying wealthy owners, those who are owned are doomed.

98% of us are sleeping. Not because we don’t want to wake up, but because it’s too incredibly painful to contemplate being awake. And that allows the powers-that-be to suck our souls from us.

Law of Attraction? A goddamn laughable bone. Kind of like a lottery ticket. “Give them hope and watch them flounder.” Surpise: You’re poor. Oops. Guess you really fucked that one up. Next time, think happier thoughts. Moron.

The “Law of Attraction” has, um, attracted many famous mouthpieces. The most famous by far would be Empress O Herself, whose lips have launched the careers of many of those famous gurus featured in The Secret. Including James Arthur Ray, Jack Canfield, Reverend Michael Beckwith and the like. And, of course, Rhonda Byrne, author of this finely lifted work.

I think this is the most horrific actualization of the Emperor’s New Clothes. We’re all so darned busy nodding our heads and softly murmuring about Her fine philosophies of God, pasting thin smiles on our faces lest we be struck by the mainstays of life (like suffering and death), that no one dares to point out that she is naked.

In the American Declaration of Independence it is written that man (sic) has the inalienable right to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” This line is actually lifted from the British John Locke’s 1690 document, the  “Second Treaty of Civil Government” where he claimed that every man (sic) was entitled to “life, liberty and property.”

The American Dream born from this concept where property, or more broadly, the possession of stuff, is the path to happiness. We’ve become so frenzied with that notion of happiness that it’s become almost like a new religion (actually, it’s two newish-old ones, the Church of New Thought merged with Mary Baker Eddy’s Christian Science).

And what do all it’s Preachers preach?

That good thoughts lead to money which in turn brings you happiness which is your God-given right as a human being. And yes, God lurks heavily in their gospel, but as a by-product of wealth.

And so we’re all busy paying the gurus, I mean Preachers, so that we can learn how to “think the right thoughts” so that we can earn our money and find our way to God Himself (sic). Meanwhile, we’re doing nothing to make the world a better place to live.

We’re smiling ourselves to death, kidding ourselves about the stylish mantle of success they have us believe they are wearing (isn’t it a little suspicious that each of them teaches the cornerstone of deception by encouraging everyone to walk the walk and talk the talk, to act “as if” even before they’ve achieved their goal? doesn’t that smack of a lack of integrity?). And when we find ourselves thinking critically — I mean negatively — we silent smack our souls back into place and smile. Stupidly.

I for one am stepping away from the admiring masses throwing money at the gurus as they parade naked down the street. I am in good company (see the blogroll). We’re a small group, but we’re wise.

James Arthur Ray is showing his true colours these days. Accountability? None, it’s the poisonous fumes in the sand.

But we don’t need the deaths of people to reveal the truth here folks. Just an open eye and a child that points out that the Emperor is indeed naked.

It seems we’re well enough into the year where New Year’s resolutions start drip-dropping out of our minds. We let go of them quite easily with the adamant promise to ourselves that NEXT year will be different. Oh yessiree next year. But for now….

  • Gym memberships get placed in the drawer and forgotten.
  • Dreams of self-employment get overshadowed by the debt incurred at Christmas time
  • The vegetable crisper gets emptier and you once again have to push really hard to close the door on the processed foods cupboard.

I remember listening to the audio tape of The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. In it she says that at one point (after childbirth I think) in her life she got extraordinarily heavy (140 pounds — I’d KILL to weigh 140 pounds again). And you know how she lost the weight? That’s right my friends, she “thought herself skinny.” She visualized herself at a certain weight and sure enough she achieved her goal in no time flat.

So what’s wrong with you? What’s wrong with me? Whatever our New Year’s resolution was, why have 98% of us already dumped it? Why do we do this every single year, so consistently that fitness companies thrive yearlong based on the reliability of January sales? Are we daft? Do we fail to visualize properly? Do we lack mental clarity? Or is there more at play? Is Byrne presenting only the tip of the iceberg, showing us the point of arrival and keeping the real process submerged?

It’s the same with self-employment. There’s a wonderful plethora (abundance if you will) of guru’s who are ready to “teach” you the “secrets” of instant success. Just drop $900 here, $5,000 there, and if you really want to succeed, buy the full package for only $49,995.

We’re so driven to secrets of instant success that the addiction part our brain does the quick math ($50,000 of knowledge will buy me $100,000+ of annual success, so how can I fail?) and quickly overrides the logic part of the rest of our brain.

In my book, The Three Strategies of the Unstoppable Woman, I talk about accountability. Accountability, in a nutshell, means own your own shit. Law of Attraction gurus sell this as “You have attracted everything that has happened to you in your life.” Which is bullshit plain and simple.

Accountability means you own (ie respond to, deal with) what has happened to you. Then, you draw a thick line in the sand that distinctly separates what happened to you from who or what did that to you. So if you were abused, your responsible for dealing with what has happened to you and moving on in life; the perpetrator is the one with the serious problem that requires intensive therapy. If you’re overweight, your responsibility is to eat better and exercise more; what got you into the situation is bigger than you, and is a whole separate issue.

(Food orgs are corporations with a legally mandated obligation to increase their shareholder’s investment every year; human consumption does not increase at the same rate as shares, so food becomes more manufactured, more addictive — eg msg triggers neurons to want more even if the stomach is full — and more attractively packaged and marketed). Weight loss (from pharmaceuticals to gyms) is a multi-BILLION dollar business. The tax base is great. So why would governments want to regulate food and health into lower profits?)

Start looking within yourself folks. The gurus who promise you secrets and instant success are simply reaching into your pocket. Entrepreneurship is hard. That’s my most people work for someone else. Weightloss is hard. That’s why the industry generates billions of dollars every year.

There is no “easy button” in your brain. There is no easy button in life. The adrenalin you feel when you walk on fire or walk into an arrow or “survive” a sweat lodge is nothing like the dogged momentum you need to run a business, doing the same mundane thing everyday, facing rejection after rejection after rejection. If you want to walk on fire or walk into an arrow or do a sweat, great.

But don’t expect that hyped adrenalin to see you through the solitary slog actually required to get to where you want to go! and don’t expect “thinking” will achieve the same result as “doing.” Especially when your goal requires some really tough doing.

Sit in an empty room and “visualize” your favorite gourmet meal all you want; if you stay sitting until you’re achieved your mental goal, you’re going to die of starvation. Chew on that for a while.

Violence against [name-your-cause, mine is women] happens because there is a cluster of so-called “thinkers” out there who believe that [women] are inferior, objects to be owned and controlled.

According to the extremist Law of Attraction advocate, a woman gets raped because there is something innately within her that desires to get raped.

Some might soften the blow a little, and say (as they do about violent acts against children) that the thoughts that the child/woman was emanating to the universe was of smaller significance than that of the perp. (Other’s might blame it on the mother’s inability to protect the child because her thoughts are all wrong.)

When the h#ll did we get so f*cked up with our thinking??

As a feminist years back, I jumped on the bandwagaon that made violence against [women] a woman’s issue. We’d build our little victim recovery centres and pat each other’s hands and say there there dear, it’s all over now but tell me again about your pain. You need to let it go, little sister.

As a feminist today, I am jumping on a different bandwagon that is making violence against women a man’s issue. No more hand-holding, just a straight-up acknowledgement that, yes, you’ve been physically assaulted, but honey, you will heal; the person who’s psychologically bent is the frigger who did this to you. Now there’s one soul who seriously and immediately needs a good therapist.

Interestingly, I’m not alone. There are other groups out there who advocate it. Other men’s groups. Watch Tony Porter, a speaker at a TED-Women event. Here what “vibes” this guy is putting out into the universe.

Now, here’s the interesting question (or more accurately series of questions) that I’ll put out there to the LOA extremists who dare to read this blog (and other’s like it): If we can agree that the bulk of all men are not rapists (even though the bulk of all women experience sexual interruption), why is it that rape still happens in epidemic proportions? Whose thoughts are manifesting it? Are the women manifesting it? Or are womanly vibes not “strong” enough for the universe to register, and it’s actually the men’s thinking that brings it about? Can we say that when rape is used as a very specific war tactic (as it was in Bosnia), that when rape is conceived by men as a strategy, that the women have caused it to happen specifically to them? to her? to that one?

If there are men out there like Tony Porter who advocate that men step up to the thinking part of their brain, and women like me out there who subscribe to the belief that violence is a man’s issue (not a woman’s), why in the hell aren’t our thoughts significant enough to change the way things are?

26
Oct

Tima Minchina slams Oprah and Chopra

   Posted by: Britt

Stumbled across this fellow, Tima Minchina, espousing his thoughts in a nine minute slam-poetry rampage. It’ll be the best and the shortest nine minutes you’ve ever sat through. Enjoy!

29
Jun

Quantum Physics PsychoBabble

   Posted by: Britt

ABC News takes a critical view of the self-help think-yourself-healthy industry….check this out!

I think Positive Thinking goes awry when it causes you to see exclusively through tunnel vision. The periphery includes listening to your body, your gut, and the bad news along with the good. A lot of LOA (Law of Attraction) types encourage you to STOP reading all critical publications, and that to me is like moving forward in the hopes that the quicksand that you see there but are “not thinking of” will disappear of it’s own accord. It won’t, and you will sink.

Here is Barbara Ehrenreich’s take on the whole sunny-side up world view advocated by positive thought gurus.


Summary, as extracted verbatim from http://fora.tv/2009/10/24/Bright-Sided_Barbara_Ehrenreich

“Barbara Ehrenreich presents a sharp-witted knockdown of America’s love affair with positive thinking and an urgent call for a new commitment to realism.

“Americans are a “positive” people — cheerful, optimistic, and upbeat: this is our reputation as well as our self-image. But more than a temperament, being positive, we are told, is the key to success and prosperity.

“In this utterly original take on the American frame of mind, Barbara Ehrenreich traces the strange career of our sunny outlook from its origins as a marginal nineteenth-century healing technique to its enshrinement as a dominant, almost mandatory, cultural attitude. Evangelical mega-churches preach the good news that you only have to want something to get it, because God wants to “prosper” you. The medical profession prescribes positive thinking for its presumed health benefits. Academia has made room for new departments of “positive psychology” and the “science of happiness.”

“Nowhere, though, has bright-siding taken firmer root than within the business community, where, as Ehrenreich shows, the refusal even to consider negative outcomes — like mortgage defaults — contributed directly to the current economic crisis.”